If only shopping for a new pair of sling backs was as easy as picking out a man. Its easy to hold up a dress and know that you are meant to have it and so you must. But the dynamic of the ‘him and her’ situation is mind boggling to most. However, there is always the story of how your grandparents met ….they locked eyes and knew that they would spend the rest of their lives together. Cliche to say the least but is it attainable?
I’m twenty-four. To a girl in her teens I should be engaged, if not married and should be starting a family in the next couple years. To a woman in her thirties Im just starting my life and shouldn’t depend on a man but a career. To a woman in her sixties I should wait until I find that man that I know instantly I will love forever more. To a young woman, lets say 24 years old, its trying to figure out the unknown.
Whats so unknown about it though? We base everything we know about love on what we have been told, what we see in the movies and what we read in books and magazines. It is from these romantasized versions of love that we look for our own. Which in this writers opinion is exactly what setting yourself up for failure looks like. Then again I suppose there are many versions of true love – mine comes in a 6’4″ package, with a British accent and a heart much bigger than he leads on. If love were as perfect and as stereotypical as when Harry met Sally then it wouldn’t be worth all the trouble would it?
At then end of the day I might not know how to pick the perfect man or even know what love really is. But, I can say that I think Helen Keller had it right when she said, “the best and most beautiful things in this world cannot be seen or even touched. They must be felt with the heart.”