You can’t pick up a magazine or surf the Internet and not be bombarded by a barrage of headlines promising you bold, naughty moves to blow his mind in bed and leave him in a puddle on the floor begging for more. They’re all designed to capture your attention and play on your desires to be a better lover. But what if you’re more laid back and quiet when it comes to the art of seduction? If handcuffs and cattails aren’t your cup of tea (and even if they are), check out these seven simple, embarrassment-proof, and highly effective tips that create the three things necessary for any successful seduction: anticipation, excitement and delicious tension. These seductive seven also prove that in our quest to find the next mind blowing carnal moves, it’s often the simplest ones that have the sexiest impact.
1. Say His Name! Nicknames can be very endearing, particularly if the name substituted is unique and packed with sweet sentiments. But sometimes, the most alluring and sexiest name of all is his. If used at the right moment, it packs a whollop of a seductive punch, and let’s him know in no uncertain terms, that he’s the one you want to be with mind and body. So say his name at the most intimate of moments; add it to the end of I love you. Whisper it over and over again in his ear and let him know in no uncertain terms that he is exactly the person you want to be with at this moment. So look him straight in the eye, say his name, and watch the meltdown happen.
2. Don’t Ask. Tell. Here’s your chance to take quiet control in a manner that will curl his toes and put you solidly in charge. Instead of saying, “That feels good,” tell him, “Make me feel good.” Instead of asking him to “Kiss me,” tell him, “Kiss me now,” and then match your actions with the urgency of your words. It’s a side of you that he doesn’t often see so be assured, your demands have never sounded so good!
3. Mirror Me! Here’s a great way for you to take the initiative (which he’ll love), and insert a little behavior modification into your relationship (if necessary) under the guise of some seductive love play. Tell him he must mirror your actions and then show him. If you like to be kissed slow and tender, show him! If you like a firm caress, show him! When he gets it right, reward him with an enthusiasm that makes it clear he’s pleased you. Pleasing you gives him pleasure. Getting the kind of loving the way you like it, gives you pleasure. It’s a win-win for everyone!
4. Create Your Private Book Club. Reading was never so seductive. Chose an erotic book that speaks to both of your pleasures and fantasies and take turns reading to each other. Your shy nature will get pushed aside as you get lost in the sexy words and scenarios, and he’ll get a kick seeing you step out of your comfort zone. Snuggle up with your sexy boy toy and see how far you can get before your imaginations and passions are ignited.
5. Happy Lust For Me Day! The calendar is full of holidays celebrating a myriad of ideas and memories. Why not create an annual holiday that commemorates not only your love or your marriage, but your loving lust for each other? Pick a date and then create your own traditions. Serve up a holiday menu of aphrodisiacs, exchange “tricks or treats” or “toys” that just like a child eager for Christmas Eve, has him crossing off the days on his calendar!
6. Talk in Code. Being real is the ultimately sexy so if talking dirty is something that appeals to you in theory, but sounds forced and unnatural coming out of your mouth, try making up your own dirty words. Create a secret code with your lover that let’s him know all of your deliciously filthy thoughts without whispering one word of profanity! Telling him in a room full of business colleagues or tweeting him at work that you’re craving “cheesecake” for dessert or that your “sweet tooth” is acting up will work him into a can’t-wait-to-get-you- home tizzy!
7. Leave Your Panties Home. This is a classic move that I had to include because it’s quietly scandalous, allowing you to bring your bad girl out to play while maintaining your shy, good girl personality. The key here is when and how you inform him of your unfettered nether lands. Make him aware when he least expects it and in a place where he can do nothing about it but salivate, and if at all possible, let his hand make the discovery. If not, whispering that your cheesecake is unwrapped, will do the trick!
Simple. Sexy. Seductive. Go on with your shy self!