“Calling somebody else fat won’t make you any skinnier.”
Damn that Mean Girls. It’s so quotable.
Let’s face it. How many of us have been in that awkward situation where your sitting with a group of friends and one turns to you and says, “God, look at that fat guy over there. Gag me,” while your other friend sitting next to you is clearly curvy?
Passing the awkward phase (which lasts about a millisecond) is easy because you’re then faced with the fantastic question, ‘What the hell am I supposed to say to that?’
I admit I’m guilty and before would’ve probably said, “Chyeah, let me hold your hair back,” and commence in a brigade of pelican-cawing fake-laughter. But looking back, I wish I had said something along the lines of, “You’re so insecure and he’s phat with a P-H!” and proceed to emit some awkward Zooey Deschanel-like sounds. (Merrr… hurr…) The levels of said friend’s superficiality positively correlate with the awesomness of Adele’s voice and Marilyn’s legacy. It’s sad that today, looking sickly skinny is perceived to be beautiful, when clearly, people continuously forget that Marilyn Monroe had 36-24-37 measurements. Respecting your body starts with respecting everyone else’s bodies. Weight is a factor dependent on genetics, stress levels, and time management. Nowhere, in any book is a weight a measure of how attractive someone looks. My uncle runs a bariatric clinic. These facts are credible.
Bottom line is, when you judge someone, you don’t know what’s going on in that person’s life. Don’t pass judgment on anyone because of how they look, especially if your friend around you identifies with the person you’re evaluating. I mean, you don’t go around saying racist jokes about Asian people when your friend right next to you is, um, hello, Asian.
But my goodness. That person is your friend. Think of how you make her feel. Especially if your friend is the kind of person who is too chill to say anything about it out loud. It may not really bother her a whole lot, but deep down, it probably still bothers her. So choose your words wisely and stop being oblivious to other people around you. Because really, calling somebody else fat doesn’t make you look skinnier. It just makes you look like a bitch.