Should I leave him if I am pregnant

Should I leave him if I am pregnant

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If he is willing to be a good father to both his and your child you should stay with him. It’s a part of him too! ChaCha again!

What do I need to know about making someone redundant during preg…?

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Don’t do it, if you can possibly avoid it. Unless you are closing down a whole site, or a whole section, you may find it difficult to rebut the suspicion that you have selected this employee for redundancy because she is pregnant, which cou…

Can I still use FMLA leave during pregnancy or after the birth of…?

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Yes. Under both the current and proposed rule, a mother can use 12 weeks of FMLA leave for the birth of a child, for prenatal care and incapacity related to pregnancy, and for her own serious health condition following the birth of a child….

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Should I deploy or get discharged on no family care plan?

Q: I am in the National Guard and my husband is Active Duty Army. He is going to deploy again in March (not an issue) I just found out that the deployment I wasnt supposed to get stuck on had a bunch of girls drop out (im guessing pregnant or unstable.) So now they want me to go to Africa. I gave birth to my son on September 11, 2009 he is now 5 months old. Our families can take care of him but its not at all ideal for them. My parents live in MN and his in TX so they cant share the responsibility. The plan right now is for him to do half with each family. I feel as though it would be unfair to our families and our son to stay in. While I was pregnant I could have done chapter 8 but was talked out of it by my readiness NCO. He claimed that this wouldnt happen and that there are so many people and deployments comming up that I wouldnt have to worry about s being gone at the same time. BUT here I am. I only have two options Stay home and get out on having no family care plan (from what i have heard its not honorable but also not dishonorable) or deploying to Africa for the first year of my sons life leaving him with no parents albeit with capable grandparents. Thats the jist of the story. I dont mind deploying its just i worry about our families well being. I have heard everything from Im a bad mother if I go to Im a deserter if I dont go. I am mostly hearing from people who no nothing about the situation I am in. I really want to hear from someone who deployed at the same time as a spouse with a young one at home or someone who got out on no family care plan. How did it go? How did you make the decision? Other opinions and ideas welcome too!I do need to pick a priority! I know I am getting out after my enlistment is over. I just feel an obligation on both sides and feel like both deserve my attention but that is not possible. I want to make it through my commitment to the military even though I know my life situation has changed since I entered. I wish I had known that I was going to be marryin an active army soldier and have a son when i entered but there was no way to know. I have also looked into switching to air force but have not heard anything back on it yet.

A: You just need to figure out what is priority.The military or your baby?Because both motherhood and the military demand your all. I would suggest that giving all to both is nearly impossible. It’s one or the other. Some women choose the military and let motherhood take a backseat by letting their parents and other relatives do a lot of the child-rearing. Others choose not to re-enlist or get out on Ch 8 or No Family Care Plan so they can raise their own little ones.I know which one I would pick, but you have to make that choice on your own.

Cannot stop crying. Pregnant, Should I leave him? long one sorry.?

Q: People think I am attractive, I use to think I was… I am not 38 weeks pregnant. The father lives an hour away but is too busy to see me more than once every 5-6 weeks. Every time I talk to him on the phone I cry after because he always says something to hurt me. And then when I get upset while he is on the phone, he turns it around on me and says things like “you don’t love me” Last night he called and the first thing I said to him was “what are you wearing?” in a sexy like voice, but just to be silly. Later on the phone I started to say to him ” I wanna get naked and have a little fun with you right now. But I didn’t get to finish my sentence. I only got to say “I wanna get naked” and then he interrupted me and said “EWWW” I said to him “what did you say? and he said oh I was talking about the game I’m playing. then he changed his excuse to “Oh, I was only kidding” I don’t F-ing get it. Before I was pregnant.. he always wanted to have sex. But ever sense I have noticed that he wants to less and less. And then, what he said to me on the phone last night really hurt me. He is always insulting how I look… but always has. He asks.. “why do you have that scar?” “what is that mark from?” ” you have a weird complexion” you have a bird mouth” “your hair looks bad” Ive had it. I am so sick of crying all the time. Its not only these insults but he nags me about my past and how I use to live with friends and how I use to move a lot, he nags me about my credit, and when he makes me cry he jokes and laughs over it. and then calls me a baby. He also tells me “well if you would just do what I say then you wouldn’t have the problems you have now!” I know what you are going to say. Leave him. Am I right? (duh) I am struggling right now. I live alone, the only way I am going to make it is to move with him. But I am so scared that it will get worse. I have had three eviction notices so far. I work full time as a CNA. But I am out of work on leave as of two weeks ago. I have not one dollar. I don’t have money for child care once I go back to work. I don’t know what to do. The only one who is doing anything is the father. He is trying to find a house for us. But I don’t get why he is trying…. because he is disgusted by me, how I am, what I look like, my life and everything else about me. OK, now I do have one friend that wants to move in with me. She has a son and a BF. I was thinking if she had money that I could get an apartment with them. I wouldn’t have such a high rent and she wants to babysit for me. DO you think this sounds like a better idea then to move in with the rotten father? Please do not leave rude answers or comments. I already cant stop balling my eyes out right now. The damage is already done. I am already hurt, so don’t try to waist your time. Bottom line. I don’t know what to do. He is the only one I have to help me.. but he makes me feel so bad. Am I stuck with this?!?!? Should I get a place with my only friend and her BF and baby? I know that if I am in a bad situation then the baby will be too. it is about him. I just want him to be happy. I don’t know what to do.If I tell the father it is over. I will have to do this 100% on my own, I do not think I can do it without having my friend move in.Silver – vanity- Jordan- Thank you very much also. I read your answers as well, they all make sence to me. It realy would be foolish to give him another moment of my timealialoggi and hdmomma – I cannot thank you enough for you answer. It really hits home with me, and I am sure that you are 100% right. I think I should do this on my own, get myself together and move on. It will beb a struggle, but in the long run I will be happy, then I can make my new baby happy too.

A: move in with your friend and for get about him were you are now i was there i got pregnant for him and that’s all i got was abuse he always say ed he could get better and look at me who would wont a skinny fu*ker like me but saying that he would leave me ande if we went any were and if a man could look at me he would wont to ripe his head of what your going threw is abuse you got to let go of him because its really hard now but when that baby comes along its gonna be hard trying to look after a baby and the abuse if you get away from him you will come out better for it.TThere’s1 thing you got to keep in your head think of the things what dose this man do for you.Move in with your friend and let him go because to day im sitting here hes a way to work hhaven’tseen him in 3 weeks and im left holding the baby and he ddoesn’tcare and cry i thing i have made my own river in my living room you wwill sortyour self out ohonestlyyou will it wWillettetime but yo see the min you get a little bite of sstrength he will no you mea business good look and take care

I am pregnant, should i leave the father?

Q: Im 9 wks 3 days preg. The father wont stop accusing me of talking and wanting to be with other men. He treats me like crap, I know i get moody alot but I love him and want to be with him and there is no other man i am talking to or want to be with, I already have a daughter who is almost 5 and I don’t know if I can do it. I am so scared. Ever since we have been with each other, he does nothing but accuse me of stuff. He is a really jelouse and insecure guy..I am in florida so i know there is help out there but where. I am keeping the baby, i know i can do it the only thing is how am i going to work…what shoudl i do???????? I cry everyday..It isn’t good for me or the baby…and he doesn’t even think the baby is his, and I know for a fact it is, I am honest, truthful and 100 percent loyal to him..I talk to him and tell him i love him and only want him and i am not talking to anyone and it doesn’t mean anything to him….I have tried talking to him so many times and it does nothingI have a great job, I have been here for over a year, but not that much money to support 3 people, i am just making it with my dauther and I…you can contact me on the pagerI already have wic, and insurance for the 3 of us..I already live on my own, I have a one bedroom for me and my daughter…there is another room, dinning or study room I could make into the baby room

A: if a man is to jelous he can do and undo, esample, my num once told me to beware of man who are too jelous, a man in my country once beat his wife to death accusing her of sleeping with another man, so all i will advise you know is to leave his house for now till you have a safe delivery and by then may be he will come back to his sences, but please don’t devoice him yet, all am saying is just excuse him for some time, you can go to ur parent or even rent an apartment for 2month, mean while, please remember him in your prayers everyday, tell God to take control of his heart.N.B if a man is in love he can be jeolus, but not too much, becos marriage is about understanding each other.i wish you safe delivery in jesus name and stay cool, avoid craying and streesful things.best of Luck dear.