Are you a people pleaser? Are you seeking validation from people? I can’t tell you how many people I’ve notice that are people pleasers and seek attention from others, it’s scary! I never been a person who is attached to people in that matter. I truly believe God has bless me and love me in such a way that I don’t need to, all my confidence comes from Him. Being a people pleaser can only cause you to do one thing, put yourself last on the list! People will come and go, those who truly love you, will not put you in a position, that make you feel that you “have” to do things for them. Grow a backbone please. You can never truly make everyone around you happy, someone will eventually find something to be unhappy with. Stop compromising, who you are, for what others want you to be. To place others up on a pedestal, while you can’t even get to a footstool, is unhealthy for your well-being. When you live a life just to please others, you will only get yourself into trouble and in unstable, unhealthy relationships. Overall it’s unhealthy for your emotional well-being. Anyone, who truly cares for you, will not put you through that. Many are out there, compromising their bodies, religious beliefs, values, finances, to please others. Nothing good comes out of that. Recognize you have to stand for something and you cannot let people control you in that matter. If you have been a people pleaser, it’s time to evaluate your life and those inner issues that you are hiding. Perhaps something happened during childhood, exam it. You can’t live life, living other people’s lives nor live to please others. Your destiny is greater than that. God did not create us for someone to come and say jump and you say how high, that is not of God.
That goes for those seeking validation as well. The root of seeking validation comes from a low self-esteem and low self-worth, it’s an internal issues. People cannot fix your internal issues, you have to hand that matter to God. People can only make it worst or put a bandage on it. You have to understand, no one need to validate you, you are a human being, just like they are. You are created for greatness just like they are. You can be all you want to be, just like they can, and most of the time God has bigger and better plans for you. You simply cannot please everyone, that is unrealistic and detrimental to your health. If you really want to please someone, please God, please yourself, by being the person God has called you to be: Bold, Strong, Wise and Beautiful inside-out. As Dr. Seuss, said best, “Be who you are and say what you feel, because those who mind don’t matter, and those who matter don’t mind.”
Scriptures to Meditate On:
Galatians 1:10 (ESV) “For am I now seeking the approval of man, or of God? Or am I trying to please man? If I were still trying to please man, I would not be a servant of Christ.”
Colossians 3:23 (ESV) “Whatever you do, work heartily, as for the Lord and not for men,”
Galatians 3:28 (ESV) “There is neither Jew nor Greek, there is neither slave nor free, there is no male and female, for you are all one in Christ Jesus.” Colossians 3:24 (ESV) “Knowing that from the Lord you will receive the inheritance as your reward. You are serving the Lord Christ.” Romans 12:2 (ESV) “Do not be conformed to this world, but be transformed by the renewal of your mind, that by testing you may discern what is the will of God, what is good and acceptable and perfect.”
Cross references:
Colossians 3:23 : Colossians 3:17 Colossians 3:23 : Philem 16