As my wedding approached, the sad realization often came to mind that my grandparents, with whom I had been particularly close, would not be present to see me walk down the aisle and join our celebration. They had each passed away within the six years prior to my wedding. Rather than trying to ignore their absence, however, I decided to celebrate their lives and honor their memories. Here are six ways to remember your beloved deceased at your wedding.
Flowers
A traditional way to honor your deceased loved ones at your wedding is to display a floral arrangement in their honor. Whether at the altar, on top of the piano, or even in the bride’s hands, dedicate a bouquet to your loved ones and mention the honor in your wedding ceremony program.
Prayers
Ask your pastor to incorporate a prayer in memory of your deceased loved ones during the course of your wedding ceremony. At my Catholic wedding ceremony, we mentioned our deceased grandparents in the Prayers of the Faithful. If not during your ceremony, you might remember them during the prayer of grace before your meal.
Music
There are many ways your wedding music could honor your deceased loved ones. You might incorporate a favorite hymn in your wedding ceremony, or you could dance to a song that was special to your loved one at your wedding reception. My husband and I used “Evergreen” by Barbra Streisand, a favorite of my deceased grandparents, as our “Generations Dance” song. The DJ announced the special significance of the song before the dance began.
Heirlooms
Including a family heirloom in your wedding day wardrobe is a way to carry your deceased loved one with you on your special day. You could accessorize with a piece of jewelry, wear an article of clothing, or carry a precious possession (such as a Rosary) that belonged to your deceased loved one.
Pictures
Include pictures of your deceased love ones in your wedding reception decor. If you are honoring your grandparents, you might display their wedding picture near the cake or on another special table. If you are showing a slideshow of pictures during the reception, be sure to include pictures of the bride or groom with their loved ones.
Recipes
Serve a favorite food of your deceased loved ones. You could include a dish made from your loved one’s recipe or make a batch of your loved one’s favorite cookies to offer as part of your dessert. If your deceased loved one had a soft spot for a particular kind of candy, consider distributing that candy as a wedding favor.
Your family and friends will appreciate any simple ways you can include your loved ones’ memory in your wedding day celebration. While it is sad that they cannot be physically present at your wedding, they will certainly be there in spirit!
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