Clear and open communication is needed in any marriage. Be honest and open with your husband and tell him how you really feel because it is no time for power plays and intricate schemes.
You will need to get your husband to open up emotionally to you, it may take you both taking time out to spend quality time alone doing something you both will enjoy. A weekend getaway or mini vacation to talk and bond.
These tips are necessary especially if you feel that their is an emotional distance between the two of you. Encourage your husband to open up to you and share his life with you. At these times he may express concerns or talk about things that make you uncomfortable.
Do not say anything and just listen, because if you speak up too soon he will shut down and not talk about his feelings with you again and this will lead to a bigger divide.
Be understanding and if you are upset about anything he just disclosed to you in confidence, give yourself time to cool off and wait a few days before you address it.
Keep the line of communication open and let the time and space bring the two of you closer together. Taking the steps to save your marriage just may be as simple as spending time together and opening up on a secluded space away from your jobs, kids and friends.
Slow down from your busy schedule and reflect on why you both got together those many years ago.