I wanted to write this article in response to personal experience and for all of the women out there that have bad relationships with men and sit and complain over and over again. I hear many stories of men cheating and lying. I also hear 2 days later that he is the greatest man alive, then when the weekend comes he’s at it again. SO do you ever wander why he keeps doing these things to you and hurting you. Well from experience the only good old fashion reason is…….BECAUSE YOU ALLOW HIM TO DO IT! The ONLY reason a man will cheat and lie over and over is because we let them get away with it the first, second and third time, over and over. And regardless of what he says, if he gets away with it the first time, he will do it again. So the only answer is to stop it up front.
Lay down the ground rules and let him play the game. If he wins or loses will now be his choice and not yours. If you want a great relationship with someone ALWAYS keep the lines of communication open. Let him know the things you like and don’t like up front then there is no question and vice versa. Believe me I know. I have been with my husband for 15 years. We have been through good and bad. I have learned many lessons over the years and keeping communication open is KEY. So if you don’t like something he said or did..let him know. And if you DO like something he does or says…let him know, because you can not be a nag.
The old saying “do unto others as you would have them do unto you” is correct. So if you are getting the same responses then cut ties and move on. Everyone has someone out there for them. No one has to be alone. It’s a choice. An women remember…If he hurts you once shame on him……if he hurts you twice SHAME ON YOU because You have the Power to stop it.