We’ve all been there before…the train ran out of steam, the car ran out of gas, or we’ve just come to the end of the road to take a turn into the unknown. The relationship didn’t have enough momentum to keep it going and therefore it ended. Sure, there are times when people are blindsided and don’t see it coming, but more often than not, there are some signs along the way.
Lack of communication. Maybe you started off talking every day or every other day. Now the guy waits 7 days to contact you. Definitely not a good sign! No matter how busy we are, if we really want to talk to someone or text someone, we’ll make the time to do it. If he starts waiting prolonged periods to contact you without an explanation, he’s planning his exit route.
No compromise. Everything was peachy keen in the beginning. Then, once you started having more serious discussions, you found out that he likes to sleep for 10-12 hours a day and will not see you in the morning because it’s too early for him. You found out that she prefers to be engaged before moving in together and you prefer to move in together before getting engaged. She wants you to stop drinking so much but you won’t give it up or decrease your consumption. It’s important in a relationship to meet each other halfway and try to work something out. But if both of you refuse to compromise, then the relationship cannot be saved.
You’re not a priority. He prefers to watch sports or play sports all day without giving up an hour of his time for you. She would rather meet up with you only when it’s convenient for her. He refuses to cut down on his 10 hours of sleep to spend any quality time with you.
Not listening. You have a conversation but because you have other things on your mind, you tune him out. You ask her about her weekend plans and she gives you a vague answer. You try to be attentive to him but because you’re not feeling a good vibe, you just nod your head like you’re listening or ask questions that you already know the answers to. You speak to her, but she won’t look you in the eyes.
No further dates. He ends a text by telling you to have a good week and doesn’t plan a date. He tells you at one
point that he wants to get together again but never follows through. You invite her to work out with you again at the gym but she never tries to schedule a time. If both of you are not making an effort to continue seeing each other,
then the relationship is over.
Giving up. All relationships take work. The good ones may look like they’re easy, but there’s still work involved.
Once the honeymoon phase (which was once reported at 2 years but nowadays could only last for 2 weeks) of a relationship is over, the couple has to make an effort and a choice to remain together. If you feel like you don’t have an ounce of patience left or you feel like you don’t get that person anymore or you just don’t have anything you want to say to that person, then you’ve given up. People have to want to be together. If one or both parties have “checked out,” it’s time to move on.