What is your biggest personal goal you have burning desire for to achieve? Think of one now…
Whether it is being promoted, setting up your own business, successfully finishing your studies or buying a dream house, you know that everything requires certain actions to “get there”. If you really want something, you probably spent most of your time thinking about it, analysing it, imagining it at first place, which is usually followed by asking yourself millions of questions on how, when, where or with who you are going to do it. What is more, during all this “getting there” process you come across so many obstacles that put you off that often you just decide to postpone it or even give it up right away.
I used to be just like the most of us …Getting up in a morning, looking at my miserable face in a mirror and thinking what is going to spoil my day today. I could get upset when I couldn`t find my home keys, I could swear like an old shepherd when I missed my train and I could just simply be going on-and -on about how my work and personal life suck, because, that is exactly what is the most grateful topic amongst peers, right? However, they say that every one of us has his own breaking point.
I was 19 years old when I realized what power of gratitude and belief can do with your life. It completely turns it around. It makes it light. It makes it unbelievably easy and enjoyable, and you would never believe that you used live it any differently again.
Until I haven`t fully completed my studies in my home country, I did not really care about my future career or who am I going to become when I will “grow up”.
Although I always believed in myself somehow, life seemed just too long and too enjoyable to be serious, so decision about travelling to England and enjoy it even more in here seemed just like a step into heaven.
To make it clear to you, first six months spent as an au pair in Nigerian family looked exactly as follows: Me struggling with English, household, loneliness and broken hearth, and family struggling with me-19 year old mess that was not able to even wake up on time and make a breakfast because of being depressed, but on the other hand, dared to put whole Dior suit into a washing machine and then straight into a dryer!
Well, I was really swimming against a stream. Living with complete strangers without a single person I could talk to in my own language was unbelievably frustrating. I was literally spoiling everything that came into my hands and the only think I was thinking about was my broken relationship with a “love of my life”.
To bring this further that is exactly what happens as a result when you allow too many negative thoughts and feelings entering your mind. First you think misery, then you believe misery, and finally you live it with everything that it brings.
Anyway…Every day I woke up, I was quietly awaiting until the family pack my suitcases and wish me good luck, and believe me or not, if I were in their shoes, I would do it right away!
It was a rainy Sunday afternoon and I was trying to do a bit of ironing, when this lovely Nigerian couple decided to have a late lunch in dining room.
And that was exactly that very moment when my life completely turned around.
“If Susie leaves us once, I will miss her lot…said the lady and I could not believe she is talking about me. “Me too” continued her husband, “from all those au pairs we used to have, Susie is the kindest, warm hearted person and our little one loves her so much”
I put the iron down, and tears started to run down my face. I ran upstairs and phoned my mum saying: “Mum, I just realized I am good person. Despite every single mess up and trouble I caused, they said they really like me! Does this really mean that I am a good person?” I remember words of my mum as they were said yesterday: “Dear, remember one thing: Past does not exist, and future neither. The only thing which is real,is now. Anything you act upon is now, in this very moment. And yes, in this very moment, you are a good person. And, now remember well: You always were a good person. You just did not believe it.”
Next morning I woke up and it seemed as I was living somebody else’s life. When I looked to the mirror, I could see the person I wanted to see. I started to feel gratitude to everybody and everything I came across with. I fully started to perceive beauty of whole World, and there was suddenly nothing to fear. And what is a continuous result? I have learned how to control my thoughts and feelings. I have learned how to project my wishes and dreams in my mind, so I could almost touch them.
Five years ago I was struggling to iron a shirt, now I am a successful manager, studying at the university and thinking bigger and bigger every day.
If you want start living life with its full potential, firstly you must love yourself. Love is one of the most powerful tools in human history, and it applies to everything. Accept yourself, live in the very moment, and World is going to open up to you. Think positive-believe in what you think-get what you believe in.
Do not allow any kind of negative thought entering your mind, they are a real poison and work exactly the same way as positive ones. And remember: Act upon present, forget about a past, do not dream about future. Future is right NOW.