Serious Relationships -Where Do You Stand

Webster’s Dictionary defines serious as, “requiring much thought or work.” It defines relationship as, “a romantic or passionate attachment.” Hmmmm — — interesting.

So, in other words, a serious relationship is a romantic or passionate attachment requiring much thought or work. Go figure.

It’s interesting that so many people are on the hunt for a serious relationship while others avoid it like the plague. Ever wonder why the serious relationship topic is one that provokes a passionate response from whoever you decide to discuss it with?

The game of love involves incredible risk because it is a high stakes gamble, your heart the ante. In order to find someone trustworthy and worthwhile, someone you would actually consider seeing beyond the initial “getting to know each other phase,” you have to becoming willing to take a leap of faith. At some point, you have to say, “Here’s my heart — I’m trusting you not to break it.”

Countless people are single and NOT looking because they have made the decision that serious relationships have the possibility of causing far more damage than they’re worth.

They now operate from a place of reluctance, avoiding any prospect of becoming wounded and reinjured. Of course, on the surface; this is a completely logical choice. After all, it is human nature to avoid pain and move away from a harmful situation. The reality is; most of us have been hurt, our hearts broken into a thousand tiny pieces by someone we trusted. The difference between those of us who are ready to step out again and seek a serious relationship and those who have sworn off love forever is simple. You are either a gambler or you’re not. It all comes down to a yes or no to the following question: are you willing to roll the dice and take your chances?

I’m not going to sugarcoat it -becoming deeply involved with another person demands a strongly surrendered sense of self. In order to get serious with someone, you have to be prepared to become vulnerable, open and completely honest. Doing so puts you in a dicey position. When two people come together and agree that they are ready to jump in with both feet, it can be a terrifying thing. Trusting someone else not to cheat on you, lie to you or make fun of the fact that you snore and drool in your sleep is easier said than done.

It’s true, serious relationships do require work — ..they must be founded on honesty, openness and sincerity. The fruit of love can not blossom with out the sown seeds of an unguarded heart. Letting someone in, showing them the hidden places of your soul and allowing them the power to break the heart you have entrusted to their care is a thoughtful and labor intensive process. You stand a lot to lose — — ..

BUT -if you win, if you get lucky, if you find someone who is lovely and wonderful to have a serious relationship with, who you can laugh with, trust and take to momma’s house — ..then, my friend, you have hit the jackpot, the highest paying lottery of life, for there is no match for the spoils that come when you win at the game of love.


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