Now I want to talk about something that I call “the sex factor”. I will write a series on that as well. But don’t you notice that women who are sexually liberated seem to be classified as the beautiful ones?
Everyone thought Madonna was hot stuff despite the fact that she wasn’t that pretty. But man was she sexy! She pushed the envelope. She broke the female gender rules, and people loved it.
We have a lot of other women that are sexually liberated, but they are viewed just as plain sluts, which seems not fair. But the reason why some women are sexy and others are slutty is because the ones that are viewed as sluts are not INFLUENTIAL.
No one wants to be like the slut, but every woman wants to be like Madonna. Madonna influenced women. Why? Because Madonna made sex appeal appear to be a powerful weapon, which it is. Women wanted to have that same appeal, or that same power.
The only women that have sex appeal are the women that use it. No woman that doesn’t embrace her womanhood has sex appeal. They may be pretty, but they aren’t sexy. You have to use your natural appeal as a woman to your advantage.
A lot of women don’t use their sex appeal simply because they think they aren’t sexy. But this is not true. Sexy is something we are born with. Over the years, women have slowly grown away from the things that make us a woman. Some of this can be blamed on the feminist movement. Lots of feminists carried themselves in masculine ways. They didn’t wear makeup, they cut their hair short, and they dressed like men. They carried themselves as if there was something wrong with being perceived as a woman. It was like they were ashamed of their womanhood.
Feminists back then viewed beauty as a hindrance, and didn’t see how it could be used for good. But I am also a feminist, yet I believe that we should embrace our womanhood instead of hide it. I feel that beauty is a power, and we should use it.
It is okay to have hips that switch from side to side when you walk. It is okay if you flutter your eyelashes when you’re flirting. It’s okay if you wear makeup. It’s okay if you wear heels. These are things that are exclusive to womanhood, and we need to stop being ashamed of ourselves and putting down other women because of their will to show their natural womanhood.
Why is it so bad that the girl that just walked by you is showing her legs? What is wrong with the woman at the counter showing a little cleavage? Why is that so bad? Why is it so bad that the lady in front of you switches when she walks?
The feminist movement was obviously successful in some negative ways. It taught us to be ashamed of things that aren’t really a big deal. It taught us that the way to be respected is by being like men. Even now, we are going through the sexual liberation wave of feminism, and the message still appears to be about acting like men. Casual sex, friends with benefits, and the “no strings attached” idea is a mind state that women don’t naturally have, yet we are encouraged to be that way despite the fact that it isn’t consistent with womanhood.
We don’t have to have casual sex. We can casually be sexy. If we were casually sexy, we wouldn’t have to have pointless hookups just to get a rush.