Men and the Stages of Age

I’ve always heard that a mature man is easier to date or become companions with since he has already done everything he wants and has everything out of his system. I’ve been told to stay away from younger men since they are very wild and eager to experience life.

I have found this to be the opposite of what is really going on. How many of you women have gone out with an older man or someone your age and found yourself to be completely unable to relate to or lost interest in anything he is saying, or his first priority is talking about work?

So lets take a minute and discuss age and what I have learned about the differences in men and what they offer at different cycles of their lives:

When dating a man that is mid 40, they tend to lose self confidence in many things about themselves. So, I think that to compensate for many losses they rely on their earnings and accomplishments to define themselves.

They frequently discuss the cost of their homes, what they drive, what they want next, where they live and what they earn, Sometimes women can’t help but yawn, yes it is true, this talk is absolutely boring.

Imagine sitting across from someone and by the end of the night, not really knowing anything about them. That is usually what happens when it becomes a night of shallow bragging. I am not saying that a woman does not appreciate a persons accomplishments because they absolutely find that attractive. A classy, sophisticated, well rounded man can most definitely keep a women’s attention, but a self absorbed man can’t.

Then there are those men that are about 3 to 10 years younger and you can completely relate to them but just came out of the stages they are in and the excitement is not there.

You can almost relate too well to them that it becomes too uncomfortable. It is a feeling of taking 10 steps back and starting all over. You won’t have to be psychic to tell them in 10 minutes exactly how it will turn out.

Then there is the 10 to 15 years younger man. His life is just beginning, he has so many hobbies and things he is learning that you can actually learn them together.

While the age factor can be uncomfortable, you can still be companions and enjoy spending time together. Watch as they venture into the real world and experience so many things together. If you can step down from the age gap, you can most certainly enjoy a younger man.

So, what I figured out is that if you want to have a “take care of me”, kind of man and you are ready to settle down into the comfort of watching television, eating out, calling it a night early, then most definitely seek out the older man that wants to discuss “his” life with you. Or you can have the “I already did that” relationship where you are consistently guiding and re-assuring your partner and if you are confident enough to venture out into the “learning about life” world, then take a chance and do it with the younger man.

But always remember that it is what works for you.


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