1. Growth
Have you considered how a controlling relationship does not allow you to grow to find out what you could become in life? Possibly this controlling relationship has actually stunted your growth spiritually, mentally, and in many other ways. Possibly this relationship has not allowed you to be all that you can be.
2. Prison
Have you thought about what it feels like to be in prison? Have you considered that when you are in this unhealthy relationship, you possibly are in a mental prison? Possibly you are in a prison without visible bars that may or may not be seen by others. Sometimes that is what it feels like to be in an unhealthy relationship.
3. Suffocated
Have you felt suffocated in an unhealthy relationship? Suffocated to the point that you felt you were unable to breath? Has your spouse attempted to dictate who your friends are, what time to be home from an event, when you could go to church or any other event? Has your spouse attempted to dictate what you can or cannot wear out in public? Does your spouse expect you to take care of the children by yourself, even though they are both of your children? No relationship is 50/50, but is your relationship always 70/10 with you being on the 10 end? This type of unhealthy relationship can cause a person to feel suffocated. It can squelch your spirit.
4. Ungovernable Temper
I once heard a lawyer refer to a person as having an ungovernable temper. A person with this type of temper might loose their temper at any given moment. You usually have to “walk around on eggshells” when around this type of person. Does your spouse loose his/her temper and blame you stating, “you made me do it?” Have you considered that if your spouse has that fit of temperament, they could loose it and possibly kill you only later to say, “They did not mean to do it.” But then it would be too late. Has the police been called to come to your house more than once for domestic violence? Have you been in a relationship where it was either their way or no way?
5. Shame
Are you ashamed that you are in this abusive relationship? Are you ashamed to admit that what started out as a “relationship that was heavenly has now become a relationship that is hellish?” Are you afraid that your friends will look at you different if you admit and seek help for this abusive relationship? You should not be ashamed or fearful. You might find that you will have true friends that will stand by you and give you the support that you need. You might find that the biggest shame is not doing anything about this unhealthy relationship.
Why would you stay? What are the benefits of this unhealthy relationship? Life is short. There is no need to stay in an unhealthy relationship. When you leave, why not remember what you have learned from that experience? You might want to remember to not repeat the same mistake.
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Source:
Personal experience