Introduction:
There are many forms of abuse in unhealthy relationships. As a psychologist in practice in the Jackson, Mississippi area, I deal with the damage these forms of abuse do to people. Long after the abuse, the pain goes on through the damage to the human psyche.
Physical Abuse
This is usually the first kind of abuse that comes to mind when one thinks of someone being harmed by another. Physical abuse can extend from playfully pulling hair or thumping someone to bruises, cuts, and even murder. No one has the right to physically harm another in any way.
Emotional Abuse
This includes talking down to someone, being critical of them, or playing mind games with their emotions. Often those who are in a relationship where there is emotional abuse have low self esteem and lack confidence in thier own ability.
Finanacial Abuse
There are two type of financial abuse. One is where one party expects the other to provide all financial support without them giving anything to the relationship. Another type is when one controls the money in a relationship to the extent that the other has to ask for, or justify, every penny.
Educational Abuse
Some people are frightened by a significant other with more education or training them they have. This type abuse is often seen in older teens or young adults when one tries to keep the other from attending college or acquiring a better position. They may fear that if the other gets more education they may leave them or not have anything in common with them.
Social Abuse
Those who are insecure in relationships or have a tendency to control may try to limit social contact for thier significant other. They may try to pick their friends and activities. They question where they go when now with them.
If you, or someone you love, is in an abusive relationship, seek help. No one deserves to be mistreated by another. Once is too much. If it happens once, it can happen again. Anyone who abuses needs help. This should be suggested after the one being abused is in a safe place. Sometimes, the best thing that can happen to one who is prone to abuse is to meet with the consequences of their actions. Anger management programs and therapy have helped many families break the cycle of abuse.