Finding love can sometimes be one of the most difficult but most important tasks of your life. Finding that person to share a life with is what we desire at our utmost core. For many of us is seem to always be just out of our reach.
The love bond needs to be strong and to be kept alive. We must not give into our insecurities and be our own worst enemy that destroys love. Knowing your boundaries and respecting those of our partner is essential to success. That means respecting your partner’s privacy and trusting ourselves as well as our partner are the only way to maintain a happy, healthy relationship.
Everyone has boundaries that that need to be respected. Crossing them can be a deal breaker and end a relationship before it has even started. You don’t want to cause irreparable damage or do something that will lead to a breakup.
Here are some deal breakers that will end a relationship. Make sure you are not doing things that are destructive.
Do not invade someone privacy. Nothing gives you the right to start reading your partner’s email or text messages.
Do not lie to your partner. No matter what the circumstances are….even to protect his or her feelings. The truth eventually comes out and if it is critical enough it could destroy the relationship. Whatever you were trying to protect your partner from will be more destruction from the deception.
You should never snoop in drawers, wallet or financial statements. It doesn’t matter what excuse you come up with it will never justify invading someone’s privacy. This includes spying on your partner, a clear violation of trust and will achieve nothing except your partner not trusting you.
This also includes sending friends to spy on your partner. That means you don’t send a friend to eavesdrop on conversations, nor ask them to use cell phone to snap pictures to see who he is hanging out with. By doing this you show you have a complete lack of trust in your partner.
One of the biggest problems women have sometime in a relationship…..men less so, is constantly checking up on their partners. Men perceive this as distrust. This at times takes on a life of its own and the woman is oblivious to it. She can become paranoid and obsessive. Calling him incessantly comes off as just plain crazy. The man often times is ready to run. You might want to check yourself….if you find yourself doing this – repeated calling every 3 minutes….before you know it you have called 20 times in an hour…then that become 40 calls – 60 calls. What do you the person on the receiving end thinks of that? Remember this when you are watching the clock and feeling panic every 10 minutes that go by without a reply, whether it is email, phone or text…..it comes off as paranoid and obsessive.
You can love your partner with all of your soul and being; however that love will not exist or be real if you and your partner don’t trust each other. Love does not exist without trust.
If you desire a healthy relationship you must have good self esteem and love yourself. When you don’t have those things you will give into your fears and insecurities……always be afraid something bad is going to happen.
Love takes work and patience, but most of all it takes two people who are healthy and have good sense of self. No one can love you if you don’t love yourself.
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