Do me a favor: Free your mind and understand that being single is not bad.
My S.I.N.G.L.E. world involves being Spontaneous, Intelligent, Natural but sometimes Nonchalant, Gifted, Lovable, & Enthusiastic to live life, Litterly!!
S for Spontaneous:
Be spontaneous, think outside the box, and have positive people in your life when you are single. Make it enjoyable.
My single world involves spontaneity because I like to travel. I take road trips often to clear my mind or just to get away and visit. I love to dance so I party often! I am very family oriented so I visit friends and family sometimes. The list gets more interesting and goes on and on. I don’t have settle just to be in a relationship to complete my happiness.
One reason it is Great to be single is because I don’t have to depend on a man for them to let me down. I’m a go getta so I do it for myself.
Of course, I would love to be wealthy, have a happy marriage, happy family and live happily ever after. However, I understand that all of that takes time. Since it took time build a successful business now I understand it takes time to build happiness in a relationship with the right person. Good things come to those who wait.
*The most important thing to remember is you should always live life in peace and happiness rather you are in a relationship or not. It’s easier said than done is probably what you are saying right now.
I – Intelligent
Be intelligent, make wise choices, and observe who you choose to keep in your life.
Please free your mind. Be intelligent and have peace of mind because having a good relationship with few issues is possible. There are many relationships with couples that are happily married and have only had a few issues. Be intelligent and have faith in God to bring you a good person. That is what I strive for on a daily basis.
You have to have peace of mind, evaluate your life experiences and realize the truth before you jump to conclusion about the single life. If all your thoughts are negative about being single, you will have negative results. Renew your mind.
I must say that I have come to realize that life will either break you or make you. It’s all based on social conditioning (how you were raised up) and your choices you make as you mature into adulthood. In life we become accustomed to habitual ways rather they are good or bad, right? Those ways will follow you and sometimes it is what causes many relationships to fail today.
I’m getting somewhere with this.
For instance, we may have seen our fathers beat on our moms, or mothers cheat on our dads. Not to say what our grandparents did. Think about it. Some of our grandparents probably cheated on their spouse. However, they didn’t let anything break up their marriage. Those are just a few affects social conditioning has on us as we grow up. Then we wonder why our friend got a man who cheats on her. That’s probably all he was raised up around and afraid to face reality that he does not have to cheat to satisfy his needs.
Keep in mind we are suppose to live, learn and grow wisely. I know many guys who like to say they are ready to be in a relationship but in actuality they are not. I come to realize that I am really not ready to be in a relationship b/c many fail to understand what it means to be committed and faithful in one.
For some reason men in the 21st century have started this trends that because they are men, it is ok for them to cheat. Like that is supposed to be accepted as a fact. We tend to believe things if we act on it, say it or hear it repeatedly. Many believe that they will not be ok if they are single. Life goes on regardless if someone is in your life or not. It is up to you on how you handle the situation.
Are you following me?
On that note, I don’t care what anyone say but being Single is considered to be a bad thing in today’s society. You are judged by others as the bad girl/guy. So society doesn’t do to good with adjusting to live a positive single life. The main questions in my inbox today were: “what is so great about being single?”
Are you understanding why it is great to be single?
What about the ones that stay in an abusive relationship for many year b/c they say it is love? Love is supposed to be good. What about the relationships that cheats all the time. Having a good relationship has gotten lost in the books somewhere.
Don’t get me wrong, everybody wants love. Yes, I want love, too. However, many of us are impatient now days. We would rather be in an unhappy relationship for all the wrong reasons like being with someone because they give you what you want. In reality they give you so much stress and drama behind it. Well you probably didn’t know any better because I didn’t but a good relationship is has more good than bad. Your future husband/wife may be waiting on you but you rather waste time with someone that is not meant for you, that makes you cry, jealous, degrade you and other things to take your happiness away.
Now I know that you think it is impossible to be Single & Happy! We fight ourselves when we are single. If you have insecurities, you are fighting yourself. If you feel like you shouldn’t look nice or pamper yourself because you don’t have a man/woman to show for, you are fighting yourself.
Are you feeling me?
Being S.I.N.G.L.E. is a great status in life just as well as being in a Relationship.
N for Natural but sometimes Nonchalant
I take full advantage of being single. I can be myself as I am a natural woman. If I don’t want to deal with someone I don’t have to b/c I am single. I can dress the way I want, talk to whoever I want, give time to who ever I want, etc. Until it is time for me to settle that is when I will give my all to that one. I’m nonchalant at times b/c I really don’t care if it don’t pertain to me, benefit me in any kind of way. I’m just saying, what can they do leave me. I’m single anyway. I want to be me so he can be himself. If I have dress up for him, change my appearance for him in any kind of way that I don’t normally do then I really don’t care if he sticks around.
G for Gifted
I am gifted to be single because I don’t worry about trying to get in a relationship anymore. I am gifted because I am ok with living alone. Honestly, I am really not alone. I have my family that loves me, my friends that want to hang around, male friends that are willing to accept me.
Many of us are so blessed but fail to realize b/c we are so worried about the wrong things. I realized God was trying to tell me something all the days of my life but I was so wrapped up in the world. I was blinded by what everyone else was doing. That goes for the media like tv shows “flavor of love” lol, family going through drama, friends, relationships in public. The funny thing about most of those relationship is ost of them cheat, lie, and hurt their significant others b/c of their personal issues or motives. I think that being single give myself time to learn more about God, myself, and grow more wisdom. That is a gift to me.
L for Lovable
Love your friends and family! Love God. You don’t have to live your life trying to just love that one man. Your man should be about of the reason you want to love. However he is not the only one you will love in your lifetime. So while you are single show the ones that are around you the love. Everyone deserves love.
Enthusiastic to live life
I am enthusiastic to live life to the fullest. I don’t need a man in my life to make me happy. I don’t need a man to tell me that I am beautiful b/c I am beautiful. I don’t need a man to accept me for me b/c I accept me for me. God showed me that I have to accept myself and then him in order for him to bring the right man in my life.
We think it is bad to be single b/c everyone around us talks about relationship, rather its on tv shows trying to find love, people saying they want to be in a relationship for their own motives, or people in relationships just to play mind games.
What I want!
When I get in a relationship I want him to love me just as much as I love him. I want him to want me and only me, so I can do the same. I want true acceptance of our mind, body and soul. Both of us have to be happy otherwise I don’t want to be in an relationship. I have finally retired from the fantasy world and learned that patience will bring me closer to the person that is right for me. I understand that many that come my way will be disqualified in order to get to the right one.
I’m just going to live my single life to the fullest. When that right man come around then I know I’ll be ready for a new phase in my life. Until then My S.I.N.G.L.E. world involves being Spontaneous, Intelligent, Natural but sometimes Nonchalant, Gifted, Lovable, & Enthusiastic to live life! What about yours?
I’m thinking of starting a singles group! Its not bad being single. Inbox me your questions & I will update the answers in this note. I’m living the Single Life Baby! =) Message me or comment if you disagree with my view on the single life
Remember don’t try to judge or justify my life. Understand me.
Catrina Williams
PrettyNPetite
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