Gone are the days of summer flings, wild nights, and waking up in precarious situations. We’re approaching the season of unity, which leaves most singles feeling lonely for the holidays. So, if you’re looking to fill that empty bed with a whole lot of lovin’, it might be time to make yourself dating ready. Here are 8 simple hints to help transform your dating life.
1. Don’t settle: Okay, we get it. You’re desperate. But that doesn’t mean you have to find the first semi-suitable person out there. Treat your body like Real Estate, and keep those property values high by realizing your own worth.
2.) Don’t supplement who you are for someone else: It’s nice to have things in common, but it’s okay if you don’t. Your friends will realize if your changing who you are, and most of the time it’s an unwelcome change. Embrace your common likes, and appreciate your differences.
3.) Don’t Smother: Chill, baby! Anticipation is half the fun. Don’t smother each other by spending too much time together, or texting too often. There’s nothing wrong with a little mystery, and your special someone will appreciate slowly discovering how awesome you are.
4.) Don’t introduce them to the family too soon: Okay, so you have a date for the holidays. Great! What isn’t so great is the fact you want to rush them over to mom and dad’s. Slow down, and pull in the reigns. Before bringing them over to meet the parents, take into account how long you’ve been dating, evaluate where it’s going, and ask yourself if you really see yourself with this person long term. You’ll appreciate it, and so will your family. If you both feel like your ready, here’s hoping her dad isn’t ex-CIA.
5.) Do Play It Cool: Send your special someone a simple text to let them know they’re on your mind, but don’t confess your undying love and don’t text while drinking. Keep it short and simple, and move on. If it’s been a while, and they haven’t responded, fight the urge to keep texting. You never know what might be preventing them from responding to your cutesy message, and you don’t want to appear crazy.
6.) Do Be Creative: It’s becoming harder to find ways to be creatively romantic, but that doesn’t mean all hope is lost. Keep it simple, and don’t over think it. Take notes of your special person’s likes and interests and you’re sure to bump into an idea.
7.) Do Be Honest: We all saw ‘The Crying Game’ and while your secret may not be as bad as that, it’s better to be honest from the start. No, I’m not talking about over explaining on the first date, but if you see yourself continuing to date someone, it’s better to lay anything out that may prevent you from moving on later. Avoid future heartache by having a chat with your special someone by the third date about anything that could potentially be a deal breaker. You never know, that special person may just surprise you.
8.) Do Wait For Sex: No one wants to walk around wearing a scarlet letter, so here’s a suggestion to avoid being labeled the town harlot; patiently wait for sex. There’s nothing wrong with making the other person wait for the goodies, and it can certainly be a good indication of how they genuinely feel about you. Regardless of how men are, they do appreciate a good girl who knows how to say no. Wait to have sex until you both feel you’re at a point where it can enhance your relationship.
If you follow these eight simple rules, you’ll be sure to have a date for this holiday season and many more to come. But, when summer comes back around don’t let yourself fall into the same trap as last year. Remember to keep your property value high by saying “no” to the party monster within.