Everyone in life faces unique challenges, from childhood to adulthood. Many of these experiences seem to have been given to us without our consent. Yet, in the long run, challenges are the lessons that make us wiser or lock us into repeating patterns that seem to infect us our whole lifetime.
My own childhood was not short of intense challenges, from an alcoholic abusive family to poverty. These and more dynamics are now well in my past, and as much as I would never want to repeat them, I am proud to say that I was successful in letting those experiences teach me what I did not want in my own adult life. Nevertheless, there were of course a few little gremlins from my past that I had not paid attention too, that manifested into my own adult life and personal parenting mistakes. One dynamic was a passed on sense of poverty that had taken root in my mind and I regret that I may have passed along some sense of this to my own children. I should have passed along the notion that success is always emanate and that abundance is normal.
The thing is, there are thousands of possible dysfunctional dynamics that we can inherent from our own parents mistakes. Our subconscious minds are formulated and programmed by our own families; the good, the bad and the ugly. These programs are crucial to who we become. For example we see these programs continuing through generations of families that include; patriotism, alcoholism, child abuse, prejudice, and the list goes on and on.
I believe the central key to avoiding parenting mistakes is to take a common sense evaluation of what programs you inherited, and whether these things are indeed useful and healthy. We all have them, but we do not all reevaluate them. Those who do, accept responsibility for their own negative programs and become generational cycle breakers. These are the heroes of parenting and in a larger scope, the heroes that advance society.
Perhaps the largest of all parenting mistakes is to just assume what you are doing needs no further evaluation. It should all be evaluated! Otherwise we are enslaved to continue dysfunctional patterns simply because we were wired to do so, on a subconscious level. And of course, we take responsibility that we are programming our own kids, and pass along only healthy and empowering attributes.