Are you a family member who constantly dreads family holiday or other social gatherings because of a past event? If you are, it’s time to stop and consider making gatherings as pleasant and warm as they can possibly be. It’s hard to get along after you have been accused of a misdeed or if you know you’ve been falsely gossiped about within a family.
It’s my opinion, family conflicts can destroy many years of warmth and happiness of being together as a family group at social gatherings. Precious memories and enjoyable times are lost when there’s arguing which leads to everlasting misgivings. When there’s sufferings from old or fresh wounds from a family member, the person/person’s should do everything possible to get beyond their wrongs and do their best not to eliminate missing out on gatherings with their family members. People should prove they’re intelligent, moral people who can get along at family gatherings when there’s an effort is put into it.
Forgiveness is the number one thing to move past a terrible experience with a family member. If there’s never forgiveness, families suffer and become strangers to their close relatives. This can be tragic for everyone involved.
It’s my opinion, when a person speaks in an authoritative voice, they need to soften their tone and find a newer tone more satisfying and pleasing to the ear of those in a family setting. A person or persons who speak without listening to what another has to say, misses out on a lot of important things others have to offer in a conversation. Many times a person or person’s hear things coming out of a relatives mouth causing them to become irritated and mad, the person or person’s should stop, and consider, this is a family gathering and what is said should not sound dictating, bossy, and realize each person has their own thoughts about issues and no two people think alike. They should back-off and soften their voices. Don’t allow any anger to eat at their minds until it causes an out-and-out war in front of family members.
When a relative or family member is stating an opinion, don’t jump down their throats because they have a right to their own opinions and thoughts. No two people have the same minds; therefore, they different opinions and that is their human right. A person or person’s need to listen to other’s opinions about different topics and issues and be able to move on and get over their instant resentments.
Others should never sit around when an argument’s brewing but get up and dismiss themselves, change the subject, or walk away. The person who is doing the arguing will get the hint; hey, they don’t want to hear this ranting and raving over a minor view and hopefully move on themselves.