Self-limiting beliefs are internal monsters that we have stored in our psyche. They are negative
thoughts and mental blocks that we have become to believe as fact. They fill our psyche with
panic, fear and worry.
People with low self esteem usually have deep seated, basic negative beliefs about themselves and the kind of person they are. These beliefs are often taken as facts or truths about their identity. As a result, low self esteem can have a negative impact on a person and their life.
Beliefs about ourselves are learned as a result of the experiences we have had in our lives, especially in our early life. Our beliefs are what form our habits. Your reality today is based on every belief and habit that you have. Even though clothes don’t make the man, they definitely affect the way he feels about himself. No one is more aware of your physical look than you are. When you don’t feel good about yourself, nothing you wear seems to feel right or look good on you. This changes not only how you feel about yourself, but the way you communicate with others and the way you behave in relationships. Are you dressing for your body shape, are your shoes too tight, is your bra too small. Perhaps cleaning out your closet is something you can put on your ‘ to do’ list.
If you continually buy clothes that don’t quite fit you right, but you bought them cos they were on special, you may need to engage the services of a professional stylist or wardrobe consultant to give you a new signature style. Perhaps even a good hair cut, colour and style.
Work on your posture,. Stand up straight, keep your head up, and make eye contact. You’ll make a positive impression on others and instantly feel more alert and empowered. One of the finest ways to build confidence is listening to motivational speakers, audios, dvds and attending workshops and seminars. Try writing a 30-60 second dialogue that highlights your strengths and goals. Then declaim it in front of the mirror aloud every night before you go to bed. Face yourself and tell yourself you’re fabulous, amazing and I love you. Write down 100 victories that you have had in your life and it doesn’t matter how small you think the victory is. It could be being a great mum or dad, passing your high school exams. The more you acknowledge your past victories, the more confidence you will obtain and the more risks you will take. Knowing that you have had successes in the past will give you the self confidence, that you can have more successes in the future.
You get what you focus on. Many people want to change how they feel, but they don’t know how. The fastest way to change how you feel is to change what you are focusing on. Focus controls how you see the world and what you do about it. It also controls how you feel.
Whatever you focus on, you move toward., whatever you think about most, you’ll experience. Changing focus, and changing beliefs doesn’t happen overnight, it’s like building muscles. It happens bit by bit, but I guarantee you, if you change your focus, you change your reality.
Remember you’re past successes, exceptional skills, loving relationships, and positive momentum. You’ll be stunned how much you have going for you and motivated to take that next step towards success. Keep a daily victory log of all the good things that happen in your day, even if it is something like, pushing away from the dessert bowl, not having the chips or soft drink, getting to work on time, helping someone.
When you feel good, you naturally think more positive thoughts and you become a magnet to your dreams and desires. You get into the vortex and life becomes easier. Resources and people will naturally flow towards you to help you achieve and manifest your goals.
Start your day by saying to yourself before you get out of bed, upon waking “today will be easy and effortless”.
You can also raise your vibration by spending time visualising, writing out your desire statement, writing a gratitude journal, meditate, keep a victory log of your successes each day, sing, dance, do EFT, having fun, acquiring knowledge, spending time with positive people.
When we feel negatively about ourselves, we often project that emotion on to others in the form of insults, lack of patience and compassion. To stop this cycle of negativity, get in the habit of acknowledging and appreciate other people. Refuse to engage in backstabbing gossip and make an effort to praise those around you. In the process, you’ll become well liked and build self confidence. By looking for the best in others, you indirectly bring out the paramount in yourself. Change Your Self Talk and your attitude will change:
Self-speech or self talk is an extension of negative thoughts and programming. Both contribute and cause negative self-speech. To remove it, you must change your attitude toward yourself and cultivate an inner voice that only supports and loves you.
When you see things start to change for the better, acknowledge that it is happening and appreciate it..