What is Considered Ideal Love?

What is your idea of an ideal love? Are you perplexed by questions of love? Would you go for the one you love or the one that loves you? Meeting the perfect partner who you can fall in love with and whom also loves you deeply is ideal, yet this is the case of those lucky few.

What would it mean for you to choose the one that loves you? The old song, “The One You Love” sung by Glenn Frey expresses the torment between two lovers. In the song, the female protagonist is torn between the one she loves and the one that loves her. The one that she loves her has hurt her and abandon while the one that loves her has nursed her grievances. Through this short song’s story, you can ask yourself two questions: “Does your situation resemble the song’s story in which the one you love has hurt you, and it is worth it to forgive him and hurt the one that loves you? Choosing the one that loves you would mean you would have to think about his feelings more than your own. You cannot follow your heart that loves another, but instead, follow your mind and logic to treasure the one that has been loving and treating you well. Choosing the one you love also means learning to love him and making an effort to love him. Think of reasons that make him worthy of your love find out and perhaps you can fall in love again. Initially it may seem like you are living a lie and become frustrated yet, remember how well he teats you and perhaps you will become touched and start to fall in love with his good qualities. Most importantly would you be happy with the one that loves you or rather be with the one you love? Which is your ideal love?

The female protagonist in the Chinese movie “Don’t Go Breaking My Heart” eventually chooses the one who loves her after successfully abandoning the one she loves and eventually fell in love with the one that loves her. Perhaps in the beginning it may seem like it is not ideal, but the ending was a happy one. Choosing the one you love means taking a chance to see if you will or will not succeed at falling in love with the one that loves you. If you succeed you have a beautiful love story but if you do not, your love story is not tragic either. You may not feel the passion, but the pro is that your heart may not easily shatter. And yet, that can also be a con in which you never will be satisfied, living steadily without any sense of excitement or passion. Would you give the one that loves you a chance?

On the other hand, choosing the one you love will render you more susceptible to hurt and pain because you are putting your heart on the line. Since you love him more than he loves you, you are more prone to getting hurt than him. You may also value the relationship more than he does and therefore, you put in more effort to make the relationship work. You may risk putting yourself in a position in which you will sacrifice your happiness over his. Choosing the one you love could mean more pain and more work on your part in the relationship. Do you think it is still worth it to be with a person you love?

Yet, choosing the one you love also means you have a chance of making him fall in love with you. If you do not succeed, at least, you have found the one you are attracted to and feel love for. You naturally love him and thus, will not have to fake feelings for him. Perhaps, this would make you happy since it will not be a love out of pity, but out of choice.

The third situation is being betrayed by the one you love versus the one who loves you. Choosing the one you love but whom does not love you will give you more pain than happiness because he could hurt you over and over. It is more painful to see the one you love continue to hurt you rather than the one that loves you cheat on you. In both cases, you will experience anger and pain. You may question, “How could the one you love betray you?” The answer is quite obvious, because you love him, and he is not that into you. Yet, when you love someone you would not think he could have the heart to cheat on you. However, is it worse when the one that loves you betray you? It seems illogical, but he may have a change of heart, but in this case you may feel less pain because you no longer have a reason to force yourself to love him. Which is worst?

In conclusion, love is complicated and finding the ideal love you want is even more difficult. Choosing the one you love or the one who loves you has both its pros and cons and one has to see which pros and which cons you find ideal. Choosing the one that loves you may become a happy love story if you fall in love with him in the end, touched by his kind ways, but also can become a doomed love story if he betrays you and you find that all along you have been forcing yourself to love him only to get hurt. And yet, choosing the one that loves you could also be quite a hassle if he dumps you for another girl and you still cannot get over him because his image is deeply engraved in your heart. However, perhaps it is a good choice because at least you were able to experience happiness since you found the one you love which will make you feel very happy and blissful. There is even that chance that you can win his heart and be the queen of his castle as he falls madly in love with you too. Thus, perhaps choosing the one you love will be better than choosing the one that loves you because with the second choice you will never really be satisfied and the relationship is meaningless since you will not be truly happy when you are with him. At least, in the first choice you have a chance of achieving true happy when he falls for you, and you can accept the hurt and pain and move on if he does not. With the second choice, if he stays with you, you are not happy and if he leaves you, you are hurt too; it is not a win-win situation. Which love scenario is ideal for you? Who would you rather choose?

Sources

Personal Experience

“Glenn Frey – The One You Love lyrics” Lyrics007.com

“Don’t Go Breaking My Heart” Asian Media Wiki


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