How to Respect Your Husband

It is a fact that men and women are created differently. They think differently, they problem solve differently, they even love differently. Many people attempt to show love to their partners the way the feel loved. The problem with this is other person probably doesn’t feel love the same way.

In the book “Love and Respect” by Emerson Eggerichs, CHAIRS is an acronym for respecting our husbands. CHAIRS stands for Conquest, Hierarchy, Authority, Insight, Relationship, and Sexuality. This is how men feel love. So, as a woman, how can you respect your husband and make him feel loved?

1. Respect Him – Love and Respect is a great book for this very topic. Respect him in front of others. Do not ridicule him, dismiss him or overrule him.
2. Admire Him – Tell him what you like about him. Be specific. Do you love how hard he works to take care of you and the family? Just keep in mind, do not use the same things over and over, they will lose their power and start to have the opposite effect.
3. Praise Him – Do this with care, you don’t want to embarrass him. Praise him outright and in front of others.
4. Drop Everything – This conveys the important message. You are more important to me than what I am doing. Show him he is important.
5. Notice His Strengths – This is the same idea behind admiring him. Be specific and be honest. Make a point of asking for his help.
6. Forgive His Weaknesses – Do not use his weaknesses against him. How would you feel if he did this to you? This also means do not show off where you are stronger than him.
7. No Comparisons – This is especially true with negative comparisons. When you compare him to an ex you have disrespected him, pointed out a weakness, and reminded him you were with other men before him.
8. No Guilt Trips – This is manipulating and never a good idea. Manipulation leads to resentment. How can your husband feel loved if he’s feeling resentment?

Here is a small list of practical things you can do to make your husband feel loved.

Don’t point out mistakes Put his needs ahead of your own Cook what he likes for dinner Serve him first Listen with interest Leave time for him Find ways to need him Peel away your pride and admit your mistakes Get up with him Be his helper Be his biggest cheerleader Don’t expect him to read your mind Don’t expect him to notice everything you do Look your best for him and make him proud to be with you Work with him towards his dreams Ask him how he needs you to respect him

Respect is his driving force. If you respect your husband he will feel loved. In return, he will love you more. It’s a cycle. Respect him even if you don’t feel loved, he will come around.


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