Marriage is hard work
It is not simply the ability to love
It is the ability to stay when you don’t feel like loving
The ups makes it so nice
But it is the downs and the ability to last through them that make the sanity of marriage special
When you can look at your spouse and feel anger but know that there is no better match
You know you reached the true meaning of marriage
Its like looking at two kids getting married with their bubbly faces and you think to yourself: They have no idea
Because you’ve been there
You were the youth that thought marriage would meet all your desires
To wake up next to your love
But now you realize that when they said wake up every day next to him
They really meant EVERY
It seems to mean something different now
Its interesting because as kids you couldn’t wait to see him
But now if you don’t you can make it
You’ve grown so much just by being married
Its interesting of what the word compromise does to you
Mama told you with her serious face
If you want your marriage to work you have to compromise
You brushed it off
That was not a problem in your relationship you thought
Now you hear your mother’s words in your head every time you have to compromise
The difference now is there’s no childish grin on your face
With every compromise you feel like you loose a bit of yourself
You are so much different than the child he married
Now you look and you aren’t you
You are this married woman and you envy the single
You want to get through to single women who say
They need to find a man
You shake your hand and think to yourself: If you only knew
You want to say to them NO YOU DON’T, ENJOY YOUR SELF
Because marriage is work
Marriage is compromise
And when you say this you hope they get the TRUE meaning